A Nurse’s Opposing View To RESOLVE’s National Infertility Awareness Week® – Blog #7

During this series of 7 blogs relating to how to enhance fertility during National Infertility Awareness Week, I talked about how it is important for one to maximize the chances of getting pregnant by going beyond looking solely at the physiological aspects of fertility and the medical model of IVF to resolve all your fertility challenges. It is important to “get in the fertility zone,” as much it is essential for professional baseball players so they can get a hit by using MindPower, along with good ergonomics and mechanical techniques.

Why is MindPower important to implement before a couple begins their fertility journey into parenthood? Researchers have concluded that the mindset of parents before conception is important for the emotional and psychological development of their offspring after birth. Since there is a mind-body connection that balances out the Endocrine System to allow for natural functioning of a woman’s menstrual cycle, for example, an alignment is necessary in body, mind, spirit and emotion.

I discussed how de-stressing is an important ingredient to improve fertility so that the body’s delicate balance is maintained. Feeling stressed out in response to stressors negatively disrupts this balance. Within the HPA Axis, the hypothalamus in the brain picks up the stress you are feeling. The origin of the stress does not matter to the brain, so whether it is caused by long-term infertility or by the stress at work makes no difference in the body’s response. The message of stress is sent to the Pituitary gland that is also located in the brain.

The brain reacts by sending another message to the adrenals that are located just above the kidneys, where excessive cortisol production directly and negatively impacts the ovaries. The reaction to stress is swift and automatic, especially when you do not have coping skills to handle the stress-filled events. Many research studies point to the fact that one’s response to stress can be both a causative factor for infertility as well as a negative reaction to it that builds up over time.

This is particularly true for those who have unexplained infertility with no physical cause. You may have been told that your fertility issues are “all in your mind.”  Has someone said to you that you should just relax and the stork will come? Well, there is some truth to this message but not because you are crazy or have mental illness. It is true because of what I just explained about the HPA Axis and how the brain responds to stress that is not under conscious control.

One major ingredient to becoming fertility conscious is to know how to handle life’s situations with ease by learning how to access MindPower. I found this out after having 4 miscarriages and having a stressful job as a visiting nurse in an underprivileged neighborhood in NY. I decided to help myself by learning meditation and self-hypnosis and by eating better with a healthier lifestyle. I became more mindful of what I could do to become fertility aware after a GYN doctor told me the only way I could have a baby was to take a toxic drug called DES, even though at the time it was proven to cause birth defects and cancer in mother and offspring.

It was fortunate for me to get back into balance and to teach others how to maintain their fertility when all else fails by accessing the subconscious mind, where all information about natural fertility abides. This is the basis of my program, Metamorphosis: Fertility Enhancement Coaching, which you can check out on my website: fertilebodyhypnosis.com. I assist my clients in becoming mindfully tough to navigate the fertility journey before, during, and after conception and childbirth. Learning breathing easy exercises, mental rehearsal to envision success and knowing how to talk to yourself in a positive manner are incorporated into my program so you can develop an “Expectant Mind. These techniques and tools can be helpful for both males and females. It is advantageous for couples to work in harmony with each other to get into the fertility zone on their own by playing an active role.

Thank you for opting to participate with me during NIAW and by reading the 7 blogs I have written. I wish you every success during your procreative endeavors. My best wishes for you are that you reach a higher level of performance through the introduction of the principles of fertility consciousness that I have presented to you this past week.

Feel free to contact me and to look at my YouTube video on fertility enhancement, my websites for my radio interviews listed, and for my TV appearances on Facebook at Fertility Enhancement Coaching. I work online and in-office.

A Nurse’s Opposing View To RESOLVE’s National Infertility Awareness Week® – Blog #6

This is the 6th blog of a series of 7 for the celebration of RESOVES National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) from Easter Sunday, April 21 to April 27th. During the previous blogs, I’ve talked about how it is important to focus on how to improve fertility rather than on being aware of your own infertility as per your medical diagnosis. The emphasis on fertility consciousness, instead, can improve the chances of conception and birth of a healthy baby.

In the book, Taking Charge of Your Own Fertility, the author Toni Weschler talks about optimizing the chances of getting pregnant through fertility awareness. She speaks about education of women relating to their own natural cycles, for example, and addresses the issue of how to evaluate the optimum time of peak fertility by monitoring cervical mucous each month. An important point she makes is that not every woman has a 28-day cycle or ovulates at day 14 as they have been instructed to calculate.

One of the obvious challenges that many women experience is that they receive the diagnosis of infertility after a year of trying to conceive when their timing to optimize results may be off, just like when you are at bat and your swing is a little out of synch with the pitch. You try and try to wing it, but the harder you try, the harder it gets to hit the ball. Three strikes and you’re out.

This is true even with the pros. Just because they are paid millions of dollars to play baseball doesn’t mean that they will always get a hit. It may mean that they are in a slump and need to work on more than the physical mechanics of their swings. It may require looking at being at bat metaphysically, that is, beyond the physical body.

Fortunately, for women there are more chances than 3 in their lives to conceive a child on a monthly basis from menarche to menopause, but the Law of Reverse Effect may prove to be problematic for them and very stressful as well. This can lead to a lack of confidence in one’s ability to be fertile and conceive a child naturally or with IVF, for that matter. It can be detrimental to their psyches as they get out of touch with themselves emotionally. This creates imbalances in the extremely delicate endocrine system. It negatively impacts fertility through the activity of the brain in the hypothalamus that directly affects the ovaries through the HPA axis.

So how does one get back in the swing? It requires a holistic approach in body, mind, spirit, and emotions. To answer this question, let’s just look at what the pros know. To be considered as a candidate for the Baseball Hall of Fame, all you have to do is hit the ball 3 out of 10 attempts. This means that you will fail at it 7 times. So the pros learn what I call “Mindful Toughness Skills” that I teach to my clients in my work as a peak performance coach, whether they are baseball players, wrestlers, entrepreneurs in a competitive market, or just plain working on conceiving a child and getting in the fertility zone.

Since we are working with a universal principle here that is aligned with fertility consciousness, it becomes as automatic as your swing after batting practice. Researchers have shown that it only takes 21 days to change a habit in the way you think, in the way you feel, and in the way you behave. If you feel that you should become pregnant within the timeframe you set for yourself without looking at what you can do to improve each month, your results may be less than stellar. If, at Easter, your cousin brought her newborn to brunch to introduce to the family, and you are anxious, depressed and upset by this, then it is time to examine what you are doing to enhance your own fertility. Perhaps you will become an active participant and decide to take charge of it by destressing and by learning how to be mindfully tough.

Begin to explore all the reasons why you have not accomplished your goal of conception. It may be something that is holding you back psychologically or culturally that you are not currently aware of in the present moment. Self-exploration is essential as well as the use of a feedback loop to understand what is working and what is not during your fertility journey. Understand that the negative beliefs and feelings you may have will put a brake in progress to move forward. So this month, change it up a bit, just like a pitcher does to strike someone out.

I invite readers to return tomorrow for the 7th blog of this series during NIAW. Those interested can watch my YouTube video on performance enhancement to improve fertility and to visit my Facebook page at fertility enhancement coaching to view TV appearances on such subjects as Operation Heal, Metamorphosis, as well as listening in on my recording listed on my websites at: fertilebodyhypnosis.com and idealperformance.net.

Thank you for your time today.  I appreciate your interest in my work. On blog 7, we will discuss some of the features of my program for fertility enhancement and how you can implement them easily by using MindPower.

A Nurse’s Opposing View To RESOLVE’s National Infertility Awareness Week® – Blog #5

For the fifth blog I am writing during the celebration of National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) from April 21-27, 2019, sponsored by RESOLVE, I will continue with the theme of promoting natural fertility enhancement with what I have termed ”fertility consciousness” in previous blogs. I have introduced this state of mind, simply because we all require balance in our lives these days, especially women, but men as well.

We are beginning to understand what it means to have “work-life” balance so that there is more meaning to our jobs and to our relationships at home. Today, it is not only important to add IQ in the equation of balanced life and work, but EQ (Emotional Intelligence) as an essential ingredient as well that will help guide us towards successes in the workforce and in our lives.

The same can be said for balancing out our bodies, minds, spirits, and emotions when we are seeking to enhance our fertility holistically in a world that is stressed out beyond what is productive. What are some of the biopsychosocial aspects of female infertility that impact women in the 21st century? Well, first of all, we live in a world where misogyny and paternalism are still rampant, although with the #MeToo Movement, women are electing to make changes.Thank goodness!

Other societal opposing goals that impoverish fertility consciousness are inequality, sexual abuse, and the glass ceiling, to name a few. Women may wait to become pregnant after they settle into their lives financially because the cost of raising a family is high. Cheaper childcare is at a premium. Yet, these days, women are expected to work and pull their weight in the workforce and at home, without the benefits that men receive.

Since women are making choices to stay in the workforce longer, they miss their optimum reproductive years, thus reducing their chances of a natural fertility cycle. The multi-billion dollar IVF industry particularly targets older women, promising babies at any age with donated eggs, even into their 50s and 60s. We have an abundance of for-profit IVF and “fertility clinics” that claim to enhance fertility at a great cost, but all they actually do is improve the chances of having a baby for some couples. This is because they cater only to their physical needs through technology, if that. I call this approach, The Humpty-Dumpty Syndrome, and you know what happened to him!

Of course, producing children at mature chronological ages is possible through technology, however improbable, because there is a decrease in fertility and an increase of birth defects, miscarriages, still born births, and harm to both mother and baby. The longer a woman waits to conceive, the more challenging and stressful it becomes for her. In these cases it is even more important to balance one’s self before attempting pregnancy, but this is true for younger women as well.

A way that women get out of synch with their own fertility is by lacking knowledge about their own bodies and the ability to be their own fertility experts. They are not educated on how to avoid pregnancy or how to encourage it, naturally or otherwise, depending on the situation at hand. The fact that there is a stigma in many cultures around the globe for women with the diagnosis of infertility, progressive dialogue is closed off because of shame. This is what RESOLVE is attempting to mitigate through this advocacy promotion during NIAW, which, as I mentioned previously, is all well and good, but not sufficient because not everyone is ready for such personal discussions yet.

It remains taboo for women to speak up about how they feel and how they think about their fertility challenges. They never have the chance to release their fears and past traumas, and the tension builds up over time, especially for those with longer term issues. I suggested that it is essential to start dialogue about these issues, when you are ready and to speak to those healthcare professionals and trusted friends and family who will understand what you are going through during your journey.

This process of self-expression and self-exploration is important because holding in emotions can do you in, for sure. Infertility can lead to anxiety and depression, and even suicide. I know this because my husband’s cousin had endometriosis and infertility for many years but committed suicide after finally having children. So my advice is to speak out in measured amounts and in small steps to improve fertility and to develop the “Expectant Mind.” Remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.

I will be back tomorrow with blog # 6 during this celebration of NIAW. Please feel free to join me to learn about how you can reduce stress, improve fertility naturally, and have the baby of your dreams in the most beautiful  and joyous way possible.

A Nurse’s Opposing View To RESOLVE’s National Infertility Awareness Week® – Blog #4

In blog #3 during National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW), I talked about the in-touch feeling I call “fertility consciousness’  and how this state of mind helps couples with fertility challenges rebalance within themselves in alignment with nature. It is the responsibility for each man and woman to keep it that way.

For women, this knowing takes place early at menarche and ends in menopause. There is a rhythm each month, and each woman dances to her own beat—to the beat of her own music within herself. Since springtime is one of growth and rebirth, women, in particular, can benefit from becoming expert “Gardeners” to understand what it takes to plant the seeds and tend to flowers while watching them grow.

To maintain healthy growth of flowers, it takes more than just planting the seeds. Gardeners must be aware of any possible conditions that may stunt the plant’s growth or harm it in any way. There must be a conscious effort before the seeds are planted. Soil conditions must be fertile with the correct light and water requirements. This is so photosynthesis can take place, and the flower can be nourished from the inside out.

Now, in spring is a perfect time to grow flowers and become gardeners of life. We have the symbolism of abundant bunny rabbits at Easter. This time of year, as I look out my office window, I see a small live rabbit that comes up to greet me, and she keeps me company all summer long. I call her Pachamama, named after the fertility goddess from Peru. I purchased an alpaca version of her on the peak of a mountain range that rises about 16,000 ft. above sea level.  Rabbits rapidly multiply as a natural process.

Human females go through similar experiences in life during their procreative journeys. They can learn from animals, such as squirrels, as they scurry to collect acorns for the future.  The female protects their fledglings from competitors, and she preserves life.

Women must honor themselves for they are faced with many obstacles before their clocks run out of time, and they lose sight of how to move towards the light. Such obstacles are physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, social, and psychological that can prevent the life-giving energies from flowing.

What is most important for the garden to grow is the courage of conviction to know where to plant the seed and to know who you are and what you want to accomplish. This truth will set you free.

One last thing that is a requirement for planting a garden is to know that there is no such thing as “infertility” in the world of nature. To be fertile is your rightful inheritance. It is you birthright, and no one can rob you of this, unless you let them. Although becoming pregnant is a natural event that takes place around the world daily, you have to claim fertility just as the birds and squirrels do. At this time of transgressions, women should honor who they are, learn to trust, and to forgive themselves.

I know these things from my own personal and professional experiences. Perhaps you do, too, or maybe you have forgotten them, temporarily. If you are ready to return to a state of balance, there are tools you can use that I call “Mindful Toughness skills.” These include relaxation, breathing easy, mental rehearsal to envision success, self-hypnosis to get in the fertile zone on you own, and positive self-talk to enable a positive outlook. This state of mind can be accomplished by participating in my program, Metamorphosis: Fertility Enhancement Coaching.

I invite you all to join in to listen to my previous radio shows on NBR FM listed on my websites: idealperformance.net and fertilebodyhypnosis.com. I look forward to hearing from you.

A Nurse’s Opposing View To RESOLVE’s National Infertility Awareness Week® – Blog #3

In the two previous blogs I wrote this week, while we celebrate National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW), we began to view FERTILTIY as a way of consciousness, not just as something that occurs to women once a month in their menstrual cycles or for men as they produce sperm and eject it into a female during a sexual encounter. If this were the case, then we can speak about our reproductive physiology the way a plumber once did in my bathroom while fixing the tub faucet. He said he needed a “his” and a “her” joint so the pipes could connect properly.

Indeed, fertility is part and parcel of a wonderful life cycle that is metaphysical because it goes beyond just the physical and includes body, mind, spirit, and emotion. With this being said, fertility must be cultured and not merely uncovered, simply because it is innate within all of us, especially women because they are born with all the ovum or eggs already planted within the ovaries.

Just like the adult butterfly is created for the sole purpose of perpetuation of its kind, so are human beings, although, of course, some folks opt not to produce children through their own volition. These days, we refer to this group as “childfree” because they make that choice, while those confirmed “childless” think they have no say in the matter.

You may be wondering what the term “fertility consciousness” means to you. What is it and how does it relate to your procreativity?  It is an in-touch feeling, where you align yourself with Mother Nature. It benefits women greatly to become more aware of their own fertility before, during, and after pregnancy. Ancient cultures understood this concept at Machu Picchu, Peru, where women prayed to the fertility goddess, Pachamama and aligned with Mother Nature in the temple. Of course, fertility included good weather conditions to produce food and textiles, as well as healthy babies.

This process of alignment includes self-exploration and self-expression with trusted healthcare professionals or friends and family members who understand you and your fertility challenges. It requires you to become an active participant in your own fertility journey beyond going to a reproductive endocrinologist for IVF or an OB/GYN physician or a third-party participant.

Becoming fertile is a balancing act, not a disease. My daughters were competitive gymnasts. I instructed them to explore why they fell off the balance beam before they got back on. They had to expect to succeed. To score, it’s important to examine the mental, physical, and emotional errors in thinking and feeling. Otherwise, you are knocked off balance before you begin.

For me, learning fertility consciousness was an important lesson on my personal journey to understand and to incorporate into my ways of knowing after having 4 miscarriages. I had to develop what I call an “Expectant Mind” in the same way I taught my daughters year later on how to score on the balance beam of life! You believe you can do it, and you envision yourself succeeding. You expect to succeed, and you do. This is true of anything in life, when you think about it. To graduate from college, we all have to envision ourselves in some way on the stage receiving the graduation diploma.

From an early age I saw myself as a mother, envisioning having 8 children. I remember walking by a church and telling my best friend that I would accomplish my goal. I did experience 8 pregnancies and ended up with 4 beautiful children, with many reproductive challenges that I describe on my You Tube video and on my TV appearances on Facebook that you can access on Fertility Enhancement Coaching.

I invite you to listen to my radio interviews through my websites, Fertilebodyhypnosis.com and idealperformance.net where they are listed. I welcome you to communicate with me in an open forum by phone or e-mail, so that you can get back into balance and become the person you were born to be.

Come back tomorrow to read Blog #4 during NIAW. Thank you for sharing your journey and spending your valuable time with me.

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