What Is Stress?
Stress is a state of tension that occurs when there are too many demands on us or when we are anticipating or experiencing a situation that is threatening, unfamiliar, or unpleasant. It affects not only the physical body, but also affects our thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. If the stress is prolonged, too intense, or too frequent, it will have a wide variety of negative consequences on our health.
Here are some possible factors that cause stress for those with fertility challenges:
- The feeling that you have no control over the outcome
- A sense of helplessness
- Monthly disappointment with cycles over the course of years of failures
- Feeling unsuccessful in achieving your life goals
- Physical fatigue on the body after many treatments
- Hormonal disruptions
- Strained relationships with your mate and family
- Juggling fertility treatments and procedures with work and life
- Mechanical timing of sex takes the spontaneity out of the experience
- Worrying while waiting for the results
- Knowledge of low success rates promotes fear
- Dealing with failure and its consequences
- Knowing that the clock is ticking and your reserve is running low
Women face major challenges in the 21st century. The lives of women may be stress-filled with demands from societal pressures to perform at home, at work, in relationships, and in their careers. In addition, there are stressors from the environment, such as toxins, pollutants, and low quality food production. Poor eating habits, overindulgence, obesity, and smoking add to the stress. Women feel the weight of these burdens but may be at a disadvantage when it comes to coping with them.
The Weight Of Societal Demands And Expectations
Demands placed on women these days come in the form of expectations. They are expected to be well-educated to get ahead in their careers, yet there remains the glass ceiling in business that prevents them from climbing the ladder of success, no matter how hard they try. Some women feel duped by a society that promises success if you put in the effort, no matter how long it takes. In addition to the pressures at work, women are expected to become mothers. This takes a certain amount of planning, for there is a timeframe for which to accomplish this goal of motherhood.
Some women believe that they have all the time in the world to conceive a child and wait until their forties, when the window of opportunity may be closing for them. This creates bitterness and anger when they are reminded by their physicians that the clock is ticking. They may become upset with themselves for being so naïve and vulnerable. The expectation is that they want to have babies NOW in this fast-paced society. Women want it when they want it, but it may become more of a challenge than they anticipated.
In what seems to be a split-second decision of a confirmed diagnosis of infertility, women can easily become a member of the “silent sorority,” feeling ashamed of their inability to conceive a child and restrained from talking about it to others, when all those around them seem to be so fertile. Sometimes there is a feeling of guilt connected to this expectation if you do not achieve your goal, and everybody seems to pick up on this.
Why Is This Happening To Me?
There may be physical reasons for their fertility struggles, which, at times, can be diagnosed with testing and corrected with procedures and surgeries. However, all too often, the fertility problems are unexplained. In this case, women feel trapped and do not know where to go to achieve balance. After an extended period of time, women may not even be able to imagine conception, because it seems like a pipe dream that may take place off in the distant future, if at all.
Other women may have achieved pregnancy but are negatively affected by multiple miscarriages, still births, failed IVF procedures, and abortions. Some may have issues from early childhood, such as rape or incest or other traumatic events. All these are traumas that can cause emotional blocks to a healthy pregnancy path. The unresolved issues could be with parents, spouses, friends, and family members. Even strangers can make an offhand remark about your inability to conceive. Although we associate emotional upheaval only with psychological disorders, it is a fact that every physical disorder has an emotional component as well.
As months and years go by, women may have associated negative behaviors that go hand-in-hand with the diagnosis, and they become even more stressed out, filled with resentment, irritability, and rage, asking WHY ME? These thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors negatively impact the functioning of the endocrine system and ovulation. A properly functioning reproductive system is essential to procreate and to sustain a pregnancy. And a vicious cycle can be easily set in motion…
A Way Out
The resolution of any traumatic and emotional issues is essential for a healthful pregnancy, but many women may not even be aware that such obstacles even exist because they are below the level of conscious awareness. At this time, it becomes urgent for prudent and sensitive women to learn how to access the power of the subconscious mind through the use of hypnosis counseling, release the baggage connected with the traumatic events from the past, reduce stress, and move towards a healthy outcome.
Please continue to the next drop down that discusses the importance of stress reduction for balance of the reproductive system. Thank you for your continued interest.